Didn't know today would be such a 'happening' day. Anyway, first things first... today is the first day of chinese new year! That means an old year has passed.... and the year of the chicken has come! (Actually, its yesterday, since now its already past midnight)
PART I
So, let me start off with what happened today for chinese new year first... Woke up in the morning, and went to visit 姑姑。 Spent like 5-6 hours there, eating lunch at her place, then gobbling up her tid bits by the kilos... Feels great siah.... long time never eat so much tid bits liao... Spoilt for choice... Then, also watch some SCV discovery program on alcohol and how it affects you... Alcohol will cause you to have lower testosterone levels in the long run, which will make u less manly... as in lose muscle mass, become more skinny, etc.... BAD, basically...
Anyway, Pearl smsed me, whether I was free in the evening, and whether I wanted to come over to her place... Of course, I said yes lah... Even though I did find it strange going over to her place... I don't really like going to a place, where I don't know much people in the first place.... Sounds weird.... Actually, it is weird.... -_-" And I asked her if she wanted to come over to my mum's place to meet my mum... Its far better, and more accurate than me telling her about who my mum is and stuff... And I could sense that she was worried that my mum would be like GW mum.... She was telling me how important that not only the two people like each other, but that family also matters....
So, I borrowed dad's car, and went there. (Of course, after going home from 姑姑's place first.... can't have dad taking bus or 240 now can I?) Saw her whole family there, and it is really really 热闹 there.... So many people, and so many kids.... its a war zone! wahhh..... Anyway, Jason, her '保姆' was there too, so we were talking and stuff... In her room that is.... its far too dangerous out there -_-" Her parents were real nice.... whole day asking us to eat, whether we want drink, whether we wanted beer.... goodness -_-"... I also saw her niece and nephews, including the one who keeps on calling me 'gor gor' on the phone while I am talking with her... So cute! haha... But I did accidentally bump into her and make her cry when I just came into the house... -_-" .... I'm really really clumsy siah... And, as if to further impress upon everyone that point, I stepped on Pearl's toe, again! This time, her other feet.... (Not too sure whether I blogged about it, I think I did, about the time I stepped on her feet, and went to buy plaster for her. At NUS Forum there, just outside the co-op...) Fortunately, nothing serious happened... Almost tot that her other nail will break or something.... So dangerous being around her -_-" ... And of course, the inevitable.... her relatives made passing comments such as 'Hey Brennie, another one of your boyfriends is here' -_-" .... why do I even 'sweat so much' when writing this blog you must wonder..... -_-" haha....
Anyway, after eating dinner at her place, we chatted for a while, before I realised that I just had to leave liao, else mum will be waiting for like forever.... And speaking of mum, she DOESN'T LISTEN TO HER HANDPHONE!!!! yeow.... I mean, there is a reason why people invented the handphone.... its so that you can be contactable at all times! Or at least, more or less so... I was like calling her since 4 or 5 pm, and she only replied like at 7:00pm.... yeow... Anyway, I was like waiting for Jason to go off first, before I go off with Pearl, just found it awkward if he knew that she was coming with me to see my mum... So, I waited till about 7:30pm, since he said he was going off at 7:00pm earlier... When I finally realised that he wasn't going anywhere, I had to make the move... can't let mummy wait forever right? So, the three of us went off together, and I gave him a lift to commonwealth...
Mummy was at 大伯伯's new place, 'The Dew', at Bukit Batok, and she wanted me to go pick her up and give her a lift back home... Without any reference to the street directory, we just set off like that, without a clue as to where street 21 is, just knowing that his place is at Bukit Batok... It's really amazing how we even managed to get there... I just drove out of PIE, and was driving towards west mall... I was talking to her, so I was preoccupied, and really was unable to concentrate as to finding the place... Just then, we had to stop at a traffic light... At that point, I suddenly remembered that we still had to look out for street 21, so I looked around for the nearest street name sign, and lo and behold, street 21!!! Wow... Without finding it, we came across it... Next question -- turn left or turn right? I was like, what the hack, so just turn left, since I the sign was at the left hand side (I'm sure the entire road is street 21). I told her to look out for a white condo... And then, we realised that actually, the residence that was on our left, when we were at the junction, was actually a condo... Though it didn't really look white... more like pinkish or something... Anyway, so I drove slowly, and like 20m from that junction, we came to the entrance of that condo, and its name was 'The Dew'... What the hack?!? And just before we saw that, I was telling Pearl that scarly this is the condo...
Anyway, what I was expecting was that I just pop by the driveway, and pick her up, then drive to her place....
I was so wrong...
When she came, after I phoned her again, she came without her bag and stuff... I was like, what the hack? Isn't she going off with us already? My mind was like 'oh no... don't tell me.....' You can guess the rest.... She asked us to go inside to say hi to the rest.... This was real bad, I knew, cause me and her are not offically anything, as much as I wish it were, and the rest will surely misunderstand -_-" . But what can I do? I was being played by fate here... To think that Pearl was like giving me the impression that she was feeling uneasy that I was just going to meet my mum, and that the 3 of us were going to be the only ones in the house... as was what I thought at first... When she realised that we were being 'coerced' into going in, she was like stunned, and was secretly giving me those funny faces of desperation... haha... Can still vividly remember them... But what could we do? Nothing, I guess... Too late to turn back now...
So, dutifully, we went in, and wished our 'happy new years' to all of them... and den chatted with 大伯母， about us, her, and all sorts of stuff... And Jerome's daughter was there too... so cute! haha... she was like calling Pearl, 'Auntie' countless times.... haha... And I was chiding her, that everyone knew she was old.... hehe... Fortunately, after countless corrections from 大伯母, she finally realised the err of her ways and started to call Pearl '姐姐' . Must have been a relief to her... haha... Anyway, as would be expected when you visit anyone during chinese new year, you would be asked to eat... though we were already stuffed, it didn't matter... we still had to eat just for the sake of showing face *sigh*... I think the both of us already exploded a few times inside... Anyway, we politely declined, and offered to eat other stuff, not the rice and ox-tail and other main dishes, which would have us in a unsalvageable state... I don't think we could have made it back alive to the car, without the aid of a wheel chair at least, if we ate any of that... But we did eat a small slice of coffee cake each, and some darn expensive chocolate, and toffee candy... wow... its like a piece of heaven, though we were both already so so full... Which speaks a lot about how tasty those were... Those things had sky high prices too... One small tin of toffee whatevers, cost $30, which would equate to more than $1 for a small piece...
Anyway, when we finally left, it was already 9:30 or so, I think… So, we drove to mum’s place, at Aljunied. Isaac wasn’t home, fortunately… I seriously wonder what would have happened if he was… Actually, I don’t think I want to… haha…. We played the piano a bit, though at first, she was rather shy at showing her prowess at the piano… Seriously, she is rather good, for a person who doesn’t play the piano…. Though, her fingers are a little stiff… That shows a lot about how easy it is to master the piano =) I tried to sight read some pieces too, but, sigh…. Didn’t turn out as planned… Anyway, while we were in the car, my mum and her were talking about ballroom dancing…. My mum was surprised that she liked ballroom dancing too (waltz in particular), and was so so excited in finding someone who shared the same interest as her… So, mum ended up showing her a few moves after the piano session… which turned out to become a free of charge dance lesson…. Haha… She was like teaching the both of us how to waltz, and salsa or something… Learnt quite a bit, and Pearl and I were also like dancing together with the music… She was telling me that I should be taking lessons with Pearl – Pearl was like telling her that I didn’t want to take lessons with her cause it was too expensive and our heights didn’t match… (I couldn’t possibly tell Pearl that its because Sherning was taking the lessons with her that I couldn’t right? Later, when I was driving her back, I told her the real reason…) Anyway, we learnt quite a bit from mum, or so I got the impression… she taught us how to do the spin turn or something… which she says beginners take ages to master…. I seriously doubt our spin turn was of an acceptable standard actually, but what the hack… =)
We said our farewells at 10:50pm or so… not before mum gave both of us hong paos… ($10 for her, and her mum also gave me $10… what a coincidence) Along the way back, we passed by Geylang, and I asked her whether she wanted to buy some 豆花 back… She agreed, wanting to give it to her dad…. Silly thing is that, both of us forgot that it was Chinese New Year, and hence…. The shop was closed!!! Haha… We only realized when we actually saw the shutters of the shop, and were wondering what was wrong…. Dope… Two forgetful people together, and this is what you get…. =)
Anyway, I sent her back, up to the 19th floor, den went home… As usual, she told me not to speed before she went home… and also send me a cute sms saying “No speeding. Fine dance for three days three nights with a broom:p” haha… Not as if I was intending to dance for 72 hours straight, with a broom summore… -_-“… So obviously, I didn’t speed… Or at least not my definition of speeding =P My definition of speeding is anything equal, below, or slightly above the equation ‘speed limit + 20km/h’… so 110km/h on AYE is perfectly well within the speed limit =) not to mention cornering at fast speeds too… haha… but ok lah, I didn’t really corner much… only once today… Didn’t even go KCKW today…. -_-“ … So unlike me… they say that love changes a person…. Hmmm…. Will my driving become more and more demure? I seriously hope not…. Though it would be that I would get into less accidents…. Not that I have gotten myself into many, just a minor one…
This concludes Part I of today’s blog…. Now for Part II -_-“
PART II:
I’ve already come home, and taken a bathe… Messaged a bit, then she called… So, we chatted, and somehow the topic fell onto what happened last sat…
Flashback (briefly):
Last sat, she invited me to the dance studio where she was learning dance with Sherning… After the dance lesson, we went to china town, as Sherning wanted to buy some stuff… or so he said… Anyway, he was acting strange throughout, and I already knew it was cause I was around… haha… serves him right… asshole… I’d explain later why I use such words on him… Crude words can be used, but only in the appropriate situation… Anyway, Pearl and I were chatting away, and he was basically more quiet, though he was also involved in the conversation… When we reached China town, we went to the bazaar for a while (pasar malam) And looked around… I excused myself a while to look through the range of can openers they had… (The can opener at home just cannot make it), so I decided its time for me to do something about it… After buying the can opener, I rejoined them, and we continued walking through China town…
I thought that everything was fine….
I was so wrong… (again -_-“ I already was wrong in Part I… haha)
While walking, I saw that most of the shops were already closed, so I stopped, and asked, “Erm… just wondering, what are we doing here?” To my surprise, Pearl replied “Yar, what are we doing here? Then let’s go home (paraphrased)”. Sherning followed saying lets go home or something to that extent, agreeing with Pearl… Immediately after that, Pearl stormed off back to the MRT, walking at a break neck speed, leaving the two of us chasing after her through the crowd… I was like, what the hack?!? I didn’t know that that one sentence I said had such a great effect on her… I was like thinking, was it earlier, I was jokingly saying something that hurt her at the pasar malam? (I joked something regarding how simple minded she is… forgot what I said already) Anyway, I felt really bad, cause I knew I was careless with my words… I knew she wanted it to be a happy outing, but my lack of tactfulness dampened the atmosphere… While chasing her, I told Sherning that I’ll send her home, as I gotta clarify this matter with her… I mean, it was my fault… But he told me it isn’t to do with me, and that she requested to talk to him in private… Anyway, so, when we were waiting for the train, I apologized to her (she was listening to her mp3 player, but I just take off the ear phone and told her…) But she just wouldn’t tell me what is wrong, or anything… After sometime, she finally told me to ask Sherning… At a loss, I did so. He told me that it was nothing to do with me, and, once again, that she requested to speak to him in private, so he’ll send her home later… Naively, I believed him, and agreed to let him send her home…
After agreeing, I felt that something wasn’t too right… Why would she want to speak to him in private? Doesn’t seem like it… She doesn’t even want to talk to him… And if she is angry with me, why does she need to speak to him in private? (I didn’t believe Sherning when he told me it had nothing to do with me… I mean, it was my words that started this whole matter)… so, when we reached Tiong Bahru MRT, when the doors were about to close, I decided that I just had to follow along… Even if it meant being a bystander, and looking from afar… Just in case anything happened… The interested thing is that, I followed at the back, behind the both of them, without both of them noticing my presence… But she didn’t seem to want to stop and talk with Sherning, as he claimed he wanted to… what the hack?!? What is happening? (I couldn’t believe that someone would tell such an outright lie)… Anyway, we came out of the MRT station, and Sherning was chasing after her, I was chasing after the both of them, when I decided to take matters into my own hands… I ran up to her, and grabbed her hand, and forced her to stop. I made her sit at the coffee club, or some café’s open air tables, and told her that I couldn’t bear to see her like that, and that she had to settle this thing before going home… whether or not it had to do with me, or Sherning… Still, she didn’t want to listen, listening instead, to her MP3… At this point, Sherning told me “Can you give us some privacy?” in a tone that betrayed his suppressed anger… Faced with such a situation, what could I do? She didn’t even want to talk to me…. *sigh*… So, I moved my chair back, as a sign that I let them have the privacy they wanted… Sherning ‘asked’ me if I could wait there for a while, I said yes, then he led Pearl away, and talked to her… It was so obvious that Pearl didn’t want to talk to him… At that time, I was so hurt, that she didn’t even want to tell me anything, but was ‘willing’ to talk to Sherning, that I didn’t even realize that her not looking at Sherning was a clear sign that he lied to me when he told me she wanted to talk to him in private… Hence, the reason I called him an asshole… Anyway, as they talked, they slowly moved away, hence I got up too, and just stood at a distance to observe them throughout… I wanted to be there if anything bad happened… But inside me, I was churning throughout… Was feeling so bad…. Come to think of it, I don’t think bad describes the feeling aptly… I stood there, while the two of them were there, Sherning talking to her… At first, she was ignoring him throughout, then after a while, she responded a bit…. So I really didn’t know what to think… Anyway, she was obviously crying, so I quickly went to the Burger King next door to get paper towels (serviettes), before coming back to watch them… I know she saw me there standing… She was seeming scolding him at times, but I don’t know what was happening, I could only make wild guesses… For all I knew, he could be venting her anger of me on him… which means that she is still angry with me… dope… I was looking at the time… 11pm ++ already… At this rate, I would have to call for a cab… midnight surcharge summore… ouch… Feel the pinch… Anyway, I prepped myself mentally for it… had nothing to do there anyway… Suddenly, I realized that Sherning disappeared, and that she was alone there… What the hack? I looked around, and couldn’t see him anywhere… I was waiting there to see if she would come to me, but alas, no… she just walked off… dope… but, since I was already there, what the hack, just go… So I chased after her, called her phone to slow her down… When I got to her, I offered her the paper towel, and finally, realized what had just passed… Sherning had given her ‘attitude’, and scolded her earlier, at China town, I can only guess, while I was buying the can opener, and this destroyed her mood… (She was troubled already with GW and stuff, and was trying to be cheery to get over it)… No wonder she charged off like that… Anyway, we walked around Tiong Bahru Park, while she was relating what happened, as well as her troubles… This is the side of her that caused me to feel so close to her… The side that is so similar to how I feel so often, that I always try to cover up with cheerfulness… the more melancholic side of her… The reason that I fell in love with her… How can two people be so similar deep inside, behind the façade… Even the putting up of the façade is the same! Anyway, we walked till the end of the park, and I saw her hesitate, as in slow down… so I knew she wasn’t in a hurry to go home, and took a loop back, in search of some benches where we could sit… We talked for a while more, till it was 11:50 or so, before she had to go home… (curfew 12 midnight) So, this is how it was, the first time I sent her home…. Sent her to her doorstep…. Not the best, or most romantic of incidences… but what the hack….
*end of flashback, so much for it being a brief one -_-“*
So, back to earlier today… The topic somehow shifted to this, for some rhyme or reason, and I was telling her that Sherning requested to speak to her in private… Oh, the reason why we talked about this, is we were talking about mood swings, with regard to my temperamental younger brother, when I brought up this issue about her mood swing on Saturday… Or was it due to talking to her about my mother’s stubborn nature, and how when you are stubborn you don’t listen to reason, like on Saturday when she was so angry, hence stubborn, and hence, didn’t listen to me at all… Can’t really remember liao… *sigh*… anyway, when I told her Sherning requested to speak to her in private, she was like ‘What?!?!?’ or something… She was stunned, cause such a thing never occurred… She never did request for a private conversation with Sherning…
Sherning lied…
As we talked, we found out that he lied about more than just that… He told her that he was ‘coerced’ into letting me send her back (erm… if so, why did he follow?!?) , that I told him 10 times (he later changed it to minimum 5 or 6 times) that I will send her home… Erm… Hello!?!? I only told him one time, at most two times, and not at all in that tone. I was thinking she was angry at me, so I told him that I’ll send her back, as I had to settle some stuff with her… namely, this issue… Additionally, he told her that I had been telling him this all along… throughout the evening! HEY THERE MISTER!!! I only told him after she stormed off, at that time, apparently due to what I said! What a jerk! And he was the one who insisted that I let him send her home, as he had some stuff to settle with her ‘IN PRIVATE’…
I’m still shocked that there can be people who are willing to degrade themselves to tell such obvious lies… I mean, all people lie… People hid their true feelings, through lies. For example, A likes B, and jios her out to watch a particular movie, but tells B, or gives B the impression that he is going out with her for a movie date cause he wants to watch the movie, but can’t find anyone to go with to watch the movie… This kind of lie, I can understand… we all, at some point of time, inevitably lie… even things like “I’m not hungry” when someone tells you to eat first at a party, cause you feel uneasy at eating at the person house, or that you are waiting for someone to come first, I don’t really mind… Cause, it doesn’t have any bad, negative effects… at most, it affects only the person himself, no harm done… but Sherning lied, a lie that backstabs me!!! A lie that deceived her!!! What would happen if we didn’t chance upon this topic, and realized that Sherning is such a person?
Anyway, after this incident, my impression of Sherning has gone from hero, to zero… Or something like that… To think that I told Pearl, in my moment of misery, that if she likes Sherning, and can relate and share with him, to go for him, and just tell me, so that I can continue to live my life…. He’s rich, and he can provide for her materially… But, after this incident, I’d rather her patch back with GW than to go with Sherning… A person’s character is so much more important than the family situation… In my honest opinion, I’d rather marry a nice, thoughtful girl, whom I can relate with and trust, without any parental support (parents object the marriage, and make life difficult), than marry one who is deceitful and backstabbing, even if the parents are totally for the marriage, and are financially well to do…. The question lies solely on what you are looking for in your future… a loving marriage, or just money... Yes, I agree with Pearl that family does play an important role in deciding on your future partner, but the crux of the issue is still on the person himself/herself that you are going to spend the entire rest of your life with…
Ok… looks like I have to stop…. Its already far too late… And I’ve been writing far too much…. At first, I thought it would take me at most 1 hour to blog this…. Now its 4:50am, and I started at 2am… that’s almost 3 hours!!! I have so much crap to write?!?!? What the….
Word count: 4500 word!?!?!?
What the!??!? Looks more like Pearl’s Ghandi essay now…. Yeow...
